Many problems in women’s lives stem from their own missing fathers. In these women’s lives, there seems to be some area that is broken or not right because of this factor. These unhealthy relationships with their fathers leave a damaged area in their soul that shapes the way they react in life; it shapes the way they treat others and see the world. For some women, the scars are devastating. If there was physical or sexual abuse, many women never get over it and it keeps them from ever being happy, secure and confident as adults. For others, there is a deficiency in their lives, something lacking or missing. They never find inner peace or wholeness, regardless of all God’s blessings or what He has done for them. This empty hole will never be filled until it is filled with Him, our heavenly Father.
The missing father syndrome is where inferiority and insecurity have the fertile soil to grow and where these forces are nourished. If you were abused by your father, you may have the tendency to internalize feelings of self- hatred that may lead to depression and in some cases a strong desire to take your own life. Why? Because the one man who was supposed to validate you, confirm you and accept you, robbed you of a healthy self-image. Women who are physically and sexually abused by their fathers or other men end up with poor self-esteem. They find themselves getting involved in abusive relationships or selling their bodies, because they have no sense of self-worth and value. It was not instilled by a father who was supposed to love, cherish and nourish them. But I have good news for the little girls, who are still crying on the inside of the inside of these women! God is the greatest Father, Who has the power to take all of your pain away and transform you into the whole woman you were designed to become. Here are just a few things He has been trying to tell you for all of these years:
“For I am the perfect father” ~ Matthew 5:48
“I knew you even before you were conceived” ~ Jeremiah 1:4-5
“You are fearfully and wonderfully made” ~ Psalm 139:14
“Simply because you are my child and I am your father” ~ 1 John 3:1
“I offer you more than your earthly father ever could” ~ Matthew 7:11
“Every good gift that you receive comes from my hand” ~ James 1:17
“For I am your provider and I meet all your needs” ~ Matthew 6:31-33
“My plan for your future has always been filled with hope” ~ Jeremiah 29:11
“Because I love you with an everlasting love” ~ Jeremiah 31:3
Reach out to your heavenly Father, who is God. He can heal your broken heart and give you the father-daughter relationship you have been longing. There is a cure for the missing father syndrome and it comes without money or price.